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Jumpstarting Leadership Abilities

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Jumpstarting Leadership Abilities
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When was the last time you undertook a major initiative?

No doubt, you and your team did some careful planning over time to outline a strategic plan and to get the right people and processes in place to launch successfully.

But did you consider what you would personally need in order to lead this expanded arena effectively?

No doubt, it asked more of you – decision-making became more complex, the challenges you and your team faced were new and more involved. That which worked well in the past was now inadequate. You simply chalked up the elevated demand for your personal resources, the additional stress, and the fatigue accompanying this to be part of the natural course for expansion.

Jumpstarting your leadership abilities as you look to launch a new initiative or project is key.

Ideally, it starts in the planning period, but anytime in the process will enhance your success and that of your company.

Why? Because more responsibility requires you to lead at an elevated level. And although coaching over time is the most effective way to develop your leadership abilities, fast-tracking this to meet change can boost your capacity quickly.

John, the Chief Executive Officer of a large healthcare organization, had always been an effective and visionary leader. Under his leadership, the organization had grown significantly, expanding its services and improving patient outcomes. Recently, John was tasked with leading a groundbreaking initiative aimed at integrating cutting-edge technology into the organization’s operations to enhance patient care and streamline processes.

Recognizing the magnitude of this new challenge, John realized that he needed a quick “kick-start” to elevate his mindset, refresh his thinking, and eliminate any old habits that might inhibit his leadership of this new initiative. Despite his past successes, he understood the importance of continuous personal growth and the need to adapt his leadership style to meet new demands.

When he called to explain what he was undertaking, we both agreed he would be well-served to work with an executive coach who could challenge him, be his thought partner, and his sounding board.

His current leadership style, although proven successful, might lack the necessary agility and forward-thinking approach required for this transformative initiative. This could result in slower adoption of new technologies, resistance from staff, and ultimately, a failure to achieve the initiative’s ambitious goals. John needed to rejuvenate his leadership approach, foster a more innovative mindset, and develop strategies to lead this change effectively.

To address this, we decided to jumpstart his leadership development with a 3-day private immersive. John later shared that this made a huge difference in the way he was able to move forward quickly and with greater ease.

Day 1: Assessment and Mindset Elevation

The first day focused on a comprehensive assessment of John’s current leadership style, strengths, and areas for development. During the week prior, I had administered a relevant assessment and conducted some personal interviews with John’s team in order to gain a holistic understanding of John’s leadership profile.

We focused on mindset elevation in the afternoon. Through guided discussions and reflective exercises, John explored the latest trends in healthcare technology, innovation, and leadership. I introduced techniques for fostering a growth mindset, emphasizing the importance of adaptability, continuous learning, and open-mindedness.

Day 2: Strategic Thinking and Innovation

The second day was dedicated to enhancing John’s strategic thinking and innovation capabilities. We began the morning with brainstorming sessions where I guided John as he generated creative solutions and strategies for implementing the new initiative. We discussed potential challenges and devised proactive measures to address them.

In the afternoon, the focus shifted to practical applications. John engaged in role-playing scenarios to practice leading his team through the change process, managing resistance, and communicating the vision effectively. I was able to provide real-time feedback and coaching to refine John’s approach.

Day 3: Habit Formation and Action Plan

The final day concentrated on habit formation and developing a concrete action plan. We identified old habits that could hinder progress and worked on replacing them with new, empowering behaviors. I then introduced techniques for habit change, including visualization, habit stacking, and accountability structures.

In the afternoon, John crafted a detailed action plan for the next 90 days, outlining specific goals, milestones, and key performance indicators. I emphasized the importance of regular reflection and adjustment to ensure continuous improvement and alignment with the initiative’s objectives.

Outcome:

By the end of the 3-day private immersive, John felt rejuvenated, inspired, and equipped with a fresh perspective on leadership. He had a clear action plan and newfound confidence in his ability to lead the organization through this transformative initiative. The intensive coaching session not only provided immediate benefits but also laid the foundation for an ongoing coaching relationship, ensuring John continued to grow and adapt his leadership approach to meet future challenges.

Does a quick intervention, such as a private coaching immersive, replace the classic coaching engagement over time?

No. An immersive is most effective when coupled with regular coaching for lasting change.

But the immersive can be greatly instrumental in fast-tracking senior executives like John to address, plan for, and acquire quick tools to begin the process of elevating their mindset, refresh their thinking, and adopt new habits essential for leading major initiatives.

By addressing potential problems early and equipping leaders with the necessary tools and strategies, organizations can ensure successful implementation and sustained growth in an ever-evolving landscape.

Where do you need to jumpstart your own leadership? What needs to shift or change in order to do so?

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The High Costs of Not Delegating

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The High Costs of Not Delegating
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You are buried at work. You keep digging through urgent problems and you are frustrated. It doesn’t stop.

Will you ever reach a point where you can focus on the things that matter most?

And how much stress are you carrying because of this? What is its impact to you? To the organization?

The bottom line is that you will always be confronted with the urgent and unexpected. So, if you are saying things to yourself like, “Once I get this out of the way, I’ll be able to..,” think, again. You have a choice: you can decide to keep doing what you are doing and anticipate the same results, or you can make the hard decision to stop the madness and make a change.

In the high-stakes world of leadership, delegating effectively is one of the most powerful things you can do to work more effectively and make greater impact.

When you consider the high return, what is holding you back?

In working with senior leaders, I have found that the top five reasons they struggle with delegation all come back to fear.

What are you afraid of?

Here are five client scenarios. Each made the shift from overloaded and overwhelmed to focus, ease, and what matters most.

  1. Perfectionism and Control

Sarah, the CEO of a fast-growing tech startup, was known for her meticulous attention to detail. Her perfectionism drove the company’s high standards but also meant she often redid work done by her team.

When Sarah called me, her need for control had set her up to crash.

“I spend countless hours tweaking presentations and reports. It doesn’t seem like anyone else can meet my standard of excellence. I find myself working late into the night, and I can’t focus on the strategic initiatives we have targeted that will propel the company forward.”

After talking with her, it was also clear that beyond her overwhelm and stress, her team felt like they could never do anything right. Motivation was low.

“I’m just not sure my team is capable of getting it done properly,” Sarah said.

“Let’s put this to the test,” I responded.

I asked Sarah to begin delegating less critical tasks with regular oversight so that she could assess this. As she did so, she noticed her reports were eager to help and more engaged. This process built a foundation of trust for her in her team’s capabilities.

Sarah learned that part of the reason others were not meeting her expectations was that she needed to communicate them more clearly and to provide feedback to help the team improve. Over time, this approach helped them to learn how she wanted things done, and it freed her to concentrate on more significant responsibilities, enhancing her leadership effectiveness. Her team felt more valued and empowered, leading to greater talent retention. A win-win.

  1. Lack of Trust

James, a CFO, struggled to delegate financial reporting tasks. Missed deadlines and errors made by his team had eroded his trust in their abilities. He would end up handling most of the reporting himself, leading to immense pressure and stress.

“I feel like I babysit and chase when I delegate,” James said. “Wondering if someone will deliver on time and have it right – well, I just don’t have the patience.”

James’s lack of trust stifled his team’s growth and development. Talented employees felt frustrated and disengaged, as they were not given opportunities to take on challenging tasks. This mistrust also hampered the team’s ability to innovate and adapt to new challenges.

As James and I talked through the situation, I discovered that he had not set up an accountability process with his team. For example, when he gave a directive, he did not provide clarity. Further, he did not give a deadline as to when he expected to see drafts. And finally, he admitted that some of the team was overdue for training that would support their ability to perform at higher levels.

The problem was not his team – it was the need for a shared process.

Building trust required transparency and gradual delegation. James let the team know that he wanted to empower them to do more, and that he would be providing training, as well as a better way to communicate clearly about deadlines and review drafts. He started by delegating parts of the financial reports, closely monitoring progress, and providing constructive feedback. As he took this approach, and invested in training and development, it enhanced his team’s competence, gradually rebuilding his confidence in their abilities.

  1. Fear of Losing Authority

Laura, a senior VP, believed that holding onto critical tasks reinforced her authority within the organization. She feared that delegating would make her seem less indispensable and diminish her influence.

Laura’s reluctance to delegate limited her team’s ability to grow and take on more responsibility. It also prevented her from focusing on strategic initiatives that required her expertise. Over time, this behavior led to a stagnant team and missed opportunities for the company.

Things came to a head when the CEO called Laura in. As she reported to me later, her CEO had noticed the underperforming team – not her ability to achieve a lot. Further, he felt she was not focusing on what mattered most. That’s when they decided to call me in to help.

In working with Laura, it was clear that she needed to shift her perspective on leadership. This took time, but it allowed Laura to gain the confidence and clarity she needed to focus on what mattered most in her position. And by delegating effectively, she was able to focus on more strategic initiatives, demonstrating her leadership in driving the company’s vision forward. Mentoring her team and empowering them to succeed enhanced their capabilities and also reinforced her role as a visionary leader.

  1. Time Constraints

Mark was a COO who was always pressed for time. He believed it was quicker to complete tasks himself rather than delegate and review them. This mindset left him overwhelmed and unable to focus on strategic priorities.

Not surprisingly, Mark’s inability to delegate effectively led to chronic stress and burnout. He was constantly firefighting, unable to step back and take a strategic view of the business. His team, meanwhile, remained underdeveloped and dependent on his constant input.

Mark actually had to take a 3-month sabbatical for severe stress. During this time, he did a lot soul-searching and reached out for help. When he was ready to get back to work, we talked frankly about him taking time to invest in developing his team’s skills. Although this initially filled most of his calendar, it paid off in the long run as his team became more self-sufficient and acquired a greater understanding and ability to contribute. Clear communication of expectations and regular check-ins ensured tasks were completed to a high standard without his constant oversight.

  1. Previous Negative Experiences

Nathan, a VP of Sales, had a bad experience with delegation in the past where a critical task was mishandled, leading to the loss of a significant client. This experience has made him wary of delegating again.

Nathan’s reluctance to delegate hinders his team’s development and creates a bottleneck in decision-making processes. His inability to delegate critical tasks means he is perpetually overworked, and his team is left feeling undervalued and under-challenged.

Nathan can start afresh by identifying team members’ strengths and delegating tasks that align with their skills. Implementing a robust review process and maintaining open lines of communication can mitigate risks and rebuild his confidence in delegation. Learning from past experiences and making necessary adjustments can turn previous failures into opportunities for growth.

The Impact on the Team

In all these client experiences, it is important to note that, when there is a lack of appropriate delegation, team members can feel unrecognized, devalued, and disengaged. This is demotivating. Underperformance certainly follows, in addition to the lack of contribution they are able to make because they are not included.

Longer term, team members that are not provided with someone who cares about their development, and not provided the stretch experiences to learn and grow, will miss career opportunities, which is life changing.

The Broader Impact on the Company

The reluctance to delegate not only affects individual executives and their teams but also has broader implications for the entire company. Here are some of the key impacts:

  • Decreased Innovation: When executives hold onto tasks, their teams lack the opportunity to innovate and bring fresh ideas. This can lead to stagnation and a failure to keep up with competitors.
  • Inefficient Use of Resources: Executives spending time on tasks that could be delegated leads to inefficient use of high-level talent. This misallocation of resources can impede the company’s growth and agility.
  • Low Morale and High Turnover: Teams that feel underutilized and undervalued are more likely to experience low morale and high turnover. This not only disrupts operations but also incurs significant costs in recruiting and training new employees.
  • Strategic Neglect: Executives bogged down with day-to-day tasks often neglect strategic planning and long-term vision. This can lead to missed opportunities and a lack of direction for the company.

Moving Forward: Practical Steps for Effective Delegation

In sum, to foster a culture of effective delegation, executives can adopt the following strategies:

  1. Build Trust and Competence: Invest in training and development to enhance your team’s skills and build trust in their abilities.
  2. Communicate Clearly: Set clear expectations and provide the necessary resources and support for your team to succeed.
  3. Empower and Mentor: Shift from a control mindset to an empowerment mindset. Focus on mentoring and developing your team.
  4. Prioritize Strategic Focus: Delegate operational tasks to free up time for strategic initiatives that drive the company forward.
  5. Celebrate Success: Recognize and celebrate your team’s achievements to reinforce the value of delegation and boost morale.

By addressing the underlying reasons for hesitation and taking these first steps, executives can overcome their reluctance to delegate, leading to a more empowered team and a higher-performing, productive company. Delegation is not about losing control; it’s about multiplying your impact through the strengths of others.

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To Upgrade Your Leadership, Uplevel Your Leadership Behaviors

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To Upgrade Your Leadership, Uplevel Your Leadership Behaviors
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How do you as CEO stay on top of your leadership game? Many think reading the latest books on this will keep things fresh. Others rely on bootcamps or CEO peer groups to stimulate their thinking about leading, and to work through business challenges.

Books can provide great insights. Bootcamps can certainly inform you of leadership trends and approaches you might want to consider. And peer groups can bring fresh ideas, community, and accountability.

But statistics show that none of these by themselves (or all together) yield the relevant changes that are most important. In other words, if you are spending significant amounts of money on your leadership in the ways we’ve just mentioned, you may be gaining some good value – but you are still leaving a lot of your leadership potential on the table.

How do you actually sharpen your leadership in the areas that matter most?

To strengthen your leadership, you need to know which areas of your leadership are ready for upleveling, and how to actually make these shifts in order to make lasting change.

Which of your leadership behaviors is ready for an upgrade?

You won’t really know what you need to change until you get good feedback.

As CEO, you may have a fair idea of those areas you need to sharpen. But as a human being, you also have your blind spots. And you can’t see your blind spots, because, well, they are blind spots.

Michael, our CEO in the last three articles, was given some feedback. As you will recall (see last week’s article “Confronting”), Michael was highly motivated to rise above the weeds once and for all, and to bring his team along with him. They had done some important work in establishing a company business imperative with top priorities over the next 12 months, and also identified what this meant for each executive team member’s focus and energy.

When it came time to identify what the team needed in order to accomplish these things, you may remember that the team members shared what they needed as to systems and processes, but also in behaviors – team behaviors together, and leader behaviors from Michael.

“I had no idea some of my behaviors were getting in the way of team effectiveness,” he confessed.

“The good news is, Michael, that you are well respected by your team. You received some good feedback, and we need to use it. Let’s talk about what you heard.”

“Well, I heard that I disempower people by allowing their employees to come directly to me – and I may counter what their supervisor has instructed them. And I also heard that I tend not to listen to the perspectives of the other executive team members when making decisions. Those are pretty big.”

“And I agree with you,” I responded. “Those are the two main behavioral shifts I heard, as well. Do you agree?”

“I agree. I’ll stop doing those things. Today.”

“Not so fast,” I countered. “That’s not the way it works. At least, if you want the change to be effective and to last.”

“Okay, I’m listening,” he said.

You need to identify upgrade behaviors for those you want to replace.

“Explain, please,” said Michael.

“You may know what you need to stop doing, but your brain needs a picture of what it needs to do, instead. For example, if you need to stop allowing employees to come in and work around their supervisors to get a better answer from you, what should you do instead?”

“Ah,” said Michael. “Okay. I need to redirect the employees back to their supervisors.”

“Now you have it!” I responded. “And what about being open to and listening to the perspectives of others?” I asked.

“Well, that one is harder,” Michael mused. “I thought I was open, but evidently I don’t appear to be so.”

“May I give you some feedback?” I asked. “I noticed in our team meeting that, when others gave a different opinion than yours, you acknowledged them, but then went right back to your own perspective. In other words, you didn’t ask them to tell you more, allowing them to share a different point of view, while listening carefully instead of waiting to jump back in.”

“Phew,” said Michael. “This may be tough.”

“True,” I said. “In fact, these kinds of behaviors take up to a year to shift so that they are lasting.”

“Well, how do I stay on track with that?” He asked. “I don’t have a lot of time to spend on this – but it’s key and I know it.”

“Fortunately, the third step is what keeps you on track,” I answered.

Track your progress regularly by getting feedback.

“Your team has given you great feedback. They can also provide you with info on your progress.”

“Like I said, I don’t have a lot of time,” he said.

“Oh, this is a one- to two-minute check-in about once monthly to see how you are doing. And of course, your regular coaching meeting with me to discuss how it’s going, what we need to do to break through roadblocks, keep moving forward, etc.”

“I see,” said Michael. “So, I’ll just be working as usual – only I’ll be integrating upgraded behaviors. That should not take more time – it’s just doing things differently.”

“You are getting it!” I said. “I’m happy to sit with you and put together a plan.”

Michael beamed. “I’m ready,” he said. “I think we are getting the formula for staying on top of the things we want most. If I can rise to the occasion with my leadership, I can bring the others along.”

What in your leadership needs upgrading? How do you know? Reaching the most important goals successfully starts here.

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Confronting Elephants in the Room That Hold Your Executive Team Back

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Confronting Elephants in the Room That Hold Your Executive Team Back
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Aligning and coordinating your team in a strategic direction is paramount. However, as challenging as this might seem, it is easy compared to the conversations you and your team need to have around what will actually make the plan work.

Surprised?

So was our CEO, Michael.

He thought that setting a clear direction (see the article Getting Your Leadership and Company Out of the Weeds) and aligning and coordinating his executive team’s energies around this (see the article How to Align and Coordinate Your Team) would get them to “hit the ground running.”

Not so. In fact, his efforts had only been the first two of five important steps to becoming a high-performing team to meet the goals that matter most.

Aligning and coordinating his team revealed some deep, dark secrets that turned out to be what actually held his team back.

As a reminder, Michael had set a business imperative for the year as a first step to getting out of the weeds. He then took this to his executive team and asked each of them to consider their respective areas of responsibility as they drew up their own business imperatives to support the larger one. Recognizing that this would require some time, they agreed to meet the following week.

As they reconvene seven days later, let’s sit in on their conversation…

“Max,” I asked the COO. “You had a great question just before we adjourned our last meeting. You asked if redirecting the team’s energy around the business imperative would not require that we reexamine the other initiatives currently on your plates.”

“That’s right,” Max responded.

Candace, the CFO interjected. “Patti, I’m more interested in the shifts in behaviors you mentioned we would have to discuss.”

“Great kick-off to this meeting,” I responded. “If you will recall, I mentioned that you are all part of a system, and that all parts of the system need to work together in an aligned and coordinated way. This means not only having the same focus and organizing your efforts, but also confronting those things that hold you back from getting this done.”

“We are going to talk about what will hold you back from achieving the goals you have set together. I call these the “elephants in the room.” These are things that interfere with moving forward. And we are all well aware of them. But we don’t address them for various reasons.”

Max spoke up. “Like the fact that we probably won’t effectively address what to do with the other initiatives we have on our plates, because we just hope that by ignoring them, they will get done, anyway.”

“Right!” I said.

Michael spoke up. “And how about things take away from our focus?” He glanced at Candace. “For instance, employee problems that keep happening because we don’t want to confront them.”

“Well, if you are going to talk about this, then let’s talk about it,” bristled Candace. “Because if we are really going to surface these elephants in the room, then let’s talk about that employee situation to which you are probably referring, which occurred again last week.”

“That’s exactly what I’m talking about,” said Michael.

“Well,” Candace took a deep breath, “Would it surprise you to know that I feel you are the cause of that problem?”

The entire room fell silent.

“Okay,” said Michael. “I’m listening.”

Candace resumed. “I actually spent another two hours in HR last week over those two employees, only to find out that I couldn’t take action. Apparently, one of them had gone straight to you and gotten permission to do exactly what I had told him not to do. This happens a lot! So how do we handle that, Michael?”

“Now, we are talking,” I said. “We’ve just begun to reveal and confront some of the important things that are holding you all back.”

Michael sat back in his chair. “It sounds like I may be a chief culprit in keeping us in the weeds.”

“Well, I guess I can stand with you,” said Candace. “I’ve been avoiding this conversation for months.”

“Take heart, team,” I said. “This happens to the best of companies. The good news is, we can turn this around. The heart of successful change lies in identifying these behaviors and actions that hold us back – and in having the courage to confront them together.”

We spent the next two hours identifying main areas where shifts needed to occur. The team was subdued as they adjourned.

“Just a minute, team,” Michael paused. “I want to say a couple of things. First, I want to apologize for what I now know has held us back. I’m going to work very hard on making these changes. I’m thankful that you listened to the shifts I need to see in the team – and I’m very proud of you for speaking up today; for having the courage to confront me on what I need to do to support these changes.”

“I want to second the motion,” I shared. “And believe it or not, when we confront what is holding us back, this is when great things begin to happen. Let’s meet next week to pull this forward. It’s not enough to reveal the elephants – we need to up-level these behaviors to move past them.”

What are the elephants you need to confront in your executive team room? Next week, we will talk about how to up-level the behaviors and actions that hold you back so that you, too, can move forward.

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How to Align and Coordinate Your Team

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Many a leader has overseen sound strategic planning, only to come to a grinding halt in just a few months.

“I find we get quickly into the weeds,” said Michael. “I really like how you and I just worked on focusing on what matters, and the plan is great (see the previous article on how Michael and I refocused to help him rise above the weeds.) But we’ve planned many times. I share the vision and set the goals, and we hit the ground running. But then, somehow, the team starts bumping heads on projects…Pretty soon, it’s back to business as we’ve always done it – good, but not great. How do I bring my team along in the process?”

“That’s our next step, Michael,” I responded. “And you are spot on. Unless you can align and coordinate your team in actionable and measurable ways, you won’t get far. Let’s roll up our sleeves.”

Michael and I met with his executive team the next week. During this time, he unveiled his business imperative – the top goals and priorities, as well as the quantifiable impact as shared in my last article.

“Team, it’s time we tighten up and get more focused,” he said. “And I admit, I am a chief culprit in keeping us from having done so until this point.”

I chimed in. “What we want to do today is to review Michael’s business imperative for the company for the next 12 months.”

“No offense,” said Candace, the CFO. “But we’ve done this a few times before. And we don’t seem to get anywhere.”

“I understand,” I responded. “Strategic plans and business imperatives usually sound great, but few get far. One important reason is because the executive team isn’t invited to align and coordinate to support the plan.”

“Go on,” said Candace. “I’m listening.”

“Michael will share the business imperative for the company. This imperative identifies the key priorities for the next 12 months, supporting the company’s strategic plan. This imperative is measurable and actionable.”

“From here, however, each of you needs to ask yourself what this means for your own areas of responsibility – and develop your own business imperative. This should support Michael’s imperative. Your imperative should have the measurables and actions to support Michael’s. Make sense?”

“It does,” said Max, COO. “We’ve often listed out who owns what when it comes to the strategic plan, but we haven’t made it as actionable as you are talking about.”

“I can see a more workable plan in the making,” said Sandra, the Marketing Vice President.

“I’m glad you do,” I answered. “It does work.”

“Just a minute,” Max hesitated. “If we are all going to do this, what about all those other initiatives we are working on? What if they don’t fit into the plan?”

“Exactly, Max,” I answered. “Once you develop your business imperative, you will need to ask yourself what to do in order to remain focused. But that’s for our next step. For now, let’s have a good discussion on what Michael’s imperative means for you. And when we reconvene next week, bring your draft business imperatives and we will have some critical conversations. We will not only be talking about what to do with initiatives that don’t support the focus; we will also be talking about what shifts in culture and leadership behaviors you may need to make in order to succeed.”

“Culture shifts? Leadership behaviors?” asked Michael.

“Yes, Michael. You and your executive team are a system – all parts of a system need to work together in the same way. If not, you won’t get any traction.”

Next time, I’ll share details of the next meeting and the tough conversations Michael and his team had to have in order to break through chronic underperformance – and finally become a high-performing, aligned, and coordinated team.

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