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The Neuroscience of Leadership: The Power of Emotional Agility

May 7, 2024 By Patti Cotton Leave a Comment

As you navigate the intricate paths of leadership, it is important to note that cognitive agility is indispensable (see previous article). This ability to flex deftly with thinking allows leaders to pivot swiftly, grasp complexities, and address challenges with creativity and insight.

However, without its strategic partner, emotional agility, even the sharpest cognitive dexterity can falter, leading to poor decision-making, strained team relationships, and a lack of vision.

Imagine a pilot flying a plane with only one working engine. The aircraft might still stay airborne for a while, but the lack of full power severely limits its maneuverability and ability to reach its destination safely. Moreover, reaching the intended destination is now at significant risk – and the mental and emotional exertion required of the pilot to attempt a safe landing anywhere is substantial.

In the same way, cognitive and emotional capacity are like the two engines a leader needs to navigate challenges effectively. Without both engines functioning, the journey becomes much riskier.

What is emotional agility?

Quite simply, it’s the ability to remain adaptable in our thoughts and emotions, allowing us to respond effectively to daily situations. It acknowledges that we all experience a wide range of emotions, whether positive, negative, or neutral, which is a natural part of life. Being emotionally agile means approaching these emotions with a light touch and viewing them not as commands but as information to guide us in making choices aligned with our values.

Why is this important?

Emotionally dysregulated leaders can find themselves making decisions based on impulsive reactions rather than rational thinking. When emotions govern our actions without the filter of reason, mistakes are often the result. This can lead to hasty decisions that lack foresight and planning, affecting not only the leader but the entire team and organization. Teams led by emotionally reactive leaders often experience low morale, high turnover, and a toxic culture, as negative emotions ripple through the workplace.

Without emotional agility, leaders are also prone to confirmation bias, seeking information that supports their feelings and dismissing contradictory evidence. This can lead to poor strategic choices that ignore potential risks and miss opportunities.

In the end, cognitive agility alone can’t save a leader from the pitfalls of unchecked emotions.

An Example

I was once contacted by an executive we will call Sarah Thompson (this name is fictitious, as well as the name of the company and the industry, to protect confidentiality). Sarah, a seasoned executive, was at the helm of her family’s food business, Thompson Foods. Having grown from a modest local bakery to a multinational corporation, the business carried a rich legacy.

However, in recent years, it faced increasing competition, shifting consumer preferences, and internal conflicts. As CEO, Sarah was renowned for her cognitive agility, known for crafting innovative strategies and adeptly maneuvering the business through challenging waters.

Despite her strengths, however, Sarah struggled with emotional regulation. She often found herself overwhelmed by the weight of expectations, leading to emotional outbursts in meetings and critical conversations. Her mood swings left her team wary and hesitant to share insights. They feared triggering her wrath or disapproval.

Decisions made in haste and under stress became the norm, which led to a series of poorly executed product launches and growing frustration among senior executives. The morale at Thompson Foods dipped, and key members began considering their exit.

Recognizing the growing toll Sarah’s emotional volatility was taking on the organization, she reached out to me for guidance. In our initial assessment, we identified several patterns contributing to her challenges. Her inability to recognize emotional triggers and understand how they influenced her decisions was a key issue. She lacked tools to manage stress effectively, which escalated tensions in high-stakes situations.

Our work began with cultivating self-awareness.

Through structured exercises and reflective journaling, Sarah started to identify her triggers, like criticism from peers or unmet expectations.
We practiced mindfulness techniques to help her pause before reacting impulsively, allowing her to assess situations with a clear mind.
Over time, she learned cognitive reframing, which helped her view challenges from a constructive perspective, easing her sense of pressure.

Another significant aspect of our work was fostering empathy. I guided Sarah in improving her listening skills to better understand her team’s perspectives. Through role-playing exercises, she learned to respond calmly and constructively to differing opinions, helping to diffuse tension and build trust.

After several months of dedicated effort, Sarah exhibited remarkable transformation.

In meetings, she maintained composure, even when faced with challenging questions or disagreements.
This shift in demeanor encouraged her team to open up, share ideas, and collaborate more effectively.
Decision-making processes became more inclusive, leading to well-rounded strategies that harnessed the collective intelligence of the team.

Sarah’s newfound emotional agility had a ripple effect throughout the organization. Employee morale improved, and the rate of attrition slowed as trust was restored. Senior executives who had considered leaving decided to stay, invigorated by the positive changes in leadership. I received a note of thanks from one of her senior executives:

“It’s like night and day, here. I feel heard, respected, and I’m able to contribute.

What a difference! Thank you!” – PB

Thompson Foods soon regained its competitive edge, launching successful products that resonated with consumers and this brought the business back on track.

Sarah’s transformation into an emotionally agile leader not only saved the company from potential turmoil but also ushered in a new era of collaboration, innovation, and sustainable growth. The journey highlighted the profound impact of emotional agility in leadership, illustrating that leading with both the mind and heart can change the course of an entire organization.

Where do you need more emotional agility?

Are you able to harness the power of your emotions, allowing you to make sound decisions even in stressful situations? Mastering this enables you to stay in control of your executive function which is the part of your brain (your frontal lobe) that supports strategy, analytical skills, creativity and innovation, the ability to manage yourself well, and more.
Can you remain calm and collected, even in the face of adversity? This ability to manage emotions supports clear communication, better negotiation skills, and the ability to inspire confidence in others. It’s the foundation of safety and trust, fostering collaboration and innovation.
Are you able to be empathetic, recognizing the emotions and perspectives of your team? This allows you to navigate interpersonal conflicts deftly, build strong relationships, and motivate your team more effectively.

Developing emotional agility is a lifelong process. By committing to nourishing this within your leadership, you will enhance your cognitive agility, becoming more effective in decision-making, fostering healthier team dynamics, and building resilient organizations that thrive in any environment.

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The Neuroscience of Leadership: Building Blocks of Cognitive Agility

May 2, 2024 By Patti Cotton Leave a Comment

As a senior executive, you are the pilot of your organization, navigating through a turbulence of decisions that demand not only precision but also adaptability. Understanding the science behind effective leadership has never been more crucial.

Neuroscience sheds light on how you can continue to develop your cognitive agility. This will help you steer clear of decision fatigue and cognitive rigidity, and move confidently forward on a path of flexible and dynamic leadership.

The Challenge of Stagnancy

Jonathan, a seasoned CEO at the helm of a multinational corporation, called me at a critical point in his leadership. His company, once a leader in innovation, began showing signs of lagging behind more agile competitors. Jonathan’s decision-making process, once sharp and ahead of the curve, now seemed slower, almost predictable. When I met with him, our discussion revealed that decision fatigue and cognitive rigidity were creeping in. Each choice seemed harder than the last, and his once transformative ideas now felt like reruns of a tired show.

Identifying the Real Problem

The real issue at play here was not a lack of effort or desire to innovate but rather outdated neural pathways that limited flexibility. This is not uncommon in seasoned leaders. Neuroscience tells us that our brains can fall into patterns of thinking that, while once efficient, can become constraining over time. In Jonathan’s case, his executive functions were trapped in a neurological rut, leading to a style of leadership that was increasingly rigid and resistant to change.

The Neuroscientific Approach

To tackle this, Jonathan needed solutions rooted in the insights of cognitive development. Cognitive agility is the brain’s ability to adapt to new information and circumstances. This adaptability is rooted in neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections. This means that even established leaders can cultivate a mind more conducive to innovation and flexibility.

Implementing Solutions

I worked with Jonathan to revive and strengthen his cognitive capacity, utilizing some of the following steps:

1. Mindful Reflection

He began with periods of mindful reflection, dedicating time to critically and openly evaluate past decisions. This practice encouraged his brain to consider multiple perspectives and alternative outcomes, laying the groundwork for more agile thinking.

2. Learning and Unlearning

He committed to learning something new every quarter, whether related to his industry or an entirely different field. This continuous learning helped to build new neural pathways, promoting cognitive flexibility.

3. Cognitive Diversity

He diversified his advisory circle to include thinkers from varied disciplines, ages, and backgrounds. This social neuroplasticity exposed his brain to a broader range of ideas and problem-solving approaches.

4. Challenging Assumptions

Jonathan applied the “Five Whys” technique to challenge his own assumptions, asking ‘why’ five times to get to the root of a particular belief or strategy. This helped to break down rigid thought patterns and build new, more adaptive ones.

5. Embracing Discomfort

He deliberately put himself in new, unfamiliar situations that required him to adapt on the fly, from improvisation workshops to cross-cultural negotiations.

Measurable Results

Six months into our work together, Jonathan’s leadership style showed tangible signs of transformation. He reported feeling more energized and less burdened by decision-making. His team noticed a more dynamic approach to strategy sessions, and the company began to regain its competitive edge. Brain-training exercises had not only rejuvenated Jonathan’s cognitive processes but also revitalized his organization’s culture of innovation.

Conclusion

Cognitive agility is not an innate talent but a skill that can be cultivated. Neuroscience does not merely suggest but demonstrates that leaders can enhance their cognitive flexibility, and in doing so, unlock a higher level of strategic and innovative thinking. As with Jonathan, embracing the principles of neuroplasticity can guide you away from the pitfalls of decision fatigue and towards a horizon of renewed leadership vigor.

In the fast-paced world of executive decision-making, the ability to adapt and thrive in the face of new challenges is what distinguishes exceptional leaders from the rest. The journey to cognitive agility begins with the understanding that our brains are our most flexible asset. The question remains: are you ready to rewire your executive brain for the future of leadership?

Patti Cotton

Patti Cotton reenergizes talented leaders and their teams to achieve fulfillment and extraordinary results. For more information on how Patti Cotton can help you and your organization, click here.

How Do You Sustain Necessary Change?

June 29, 2022 By Patti Cotton Leave a Comment

You’ve made the changes. You have your business imperative in hand to keep you focused. You’ve aligned and coordinated your executive team around this business imperative. You’ve had some tough conversations to clear the air (and the plates), and you’ve identified the leadership behaviors necessary to support your team in making this happen.

But your team is scared. Or worse, they are at a point where they don’t trust this will work.

Michael, a well-respected CEO, had just led his executive team through these same steps. He was sick and tired of being in the weeds, feeling as though the company wasn’t meeting its business potential.

But his team was scared.

Sandra, his VP of marketing, spoke up. “We’ve gone through the exercise one too many times, and the changes sound great. We start out strong, then fizzle out. The changes we try to make don’t stick. I can’t even muster up the courage to try, this time.”

“Frankly, I’m skeptical, too” said Max, the COO. “We’ve tried and died quite a bit.”

“Patti,” Michael turned to me, “I may as well pack it up. If the team won’t commit, we aren’t going to make any progress.”

“Team,” I said, “Hold tight. There’s a last critical step in the process that ensures that you stay on the path. Most companies miss this step – and it makes all the difference.”

“I’m all ears,” said Candace, the CFO. “Because if this doesn’t work, I’m not sure I can retrieve any muster to move forward. At all.”

The room was quiet for a moment.

“I understand,” I said. “Change is hard. And unless we approach it in a way that supports its success, the discouragement is overwhelming. But hang on, please. Your track record is about to change.”

What did we do?

We created a system of accountability to hold the changes firmly in place. Because a change, no matter how big or small, requires a supportive system to allow it to become the norm.

And here’s how we did it for Michael’s team.

“Team,” I said, “You have taken the first 4 of 5 steps to make this work. Michael has created the company’s business imperative to set the direction (see Article 1 in this series). He has worked with you all to create and align your own business imperatives to support the larger one (see Article 2 in this series). You’ve surfaced some critical conversations that needed to be addressed in order to move forward (see Article 3 in this series). And you have identified how you need to work as a team in order to reach these goals (see Article 4 in this series). Now, it’s time for step 5: putting a system in place to keep you all on the path as you move into greater excellence.”

“I’m all ears, Patti,” said Candace. The others nodded.

“We are going to ask ourselves five questions as we review your goals and the changes you have identified that you need to make,” I said. “This will help us to create a system to hold the process – and ourselves – accountable. It will help us stay on track.”

Question 1: What are we measuring?

We worked to identify what we needed to measure in order to know that we were on the right path and moving at the right pace. What would we look for that measured success? We broke it down by quarter, and then by month, so we could course-correct in a timely manner if something was not working.

Question 2: Who needs to know?

We then identified key stakeholders for each initiative. Even though the team knew who was in charge of what, they did not always communicate to others who might be affected by the work. The team also identified how and when the stakeholders would communicate with each other and built this into their regular meeting agendas. Michael would review each team member’s progress for their area during their 1:1 meetings.

Question 3: How do we check on progress?

Michael took charge of this and built into the executive team’s monthly agenda discussion time to review the team’s alignment and coordination as they worked on goals. What was working? What needed refining or redirecting? The team looked at other feedback loop opportunities to make sure they could tap into needed information at any time.

Question 4: How do we support upgraded leadership behaviors?

The team recognized that working together at a higher level required higher skill-building. They asked me to work with them individually to break through any roadblocks holding them back, and to help them step into more effective leadership behaviors.

Question 5: What are the conversations we need to have now?

We agreed that I would also meet once quarterly with the team to work with them on any trust issues, as well as critical conversations and needed relational skill-building. Without this fifth step, a team does well at best, but never reaches its peak performance.

I’m happy to report that Michael and his team made incredible progress company- and team-wise in that first 12 months. And so, we decided to repeat this for Year 2, knowing that things would only continue to reach new and exciting heights. It is Year 3 for them, and they have established themselves as a leader in their industry.

Where in the process I have described above do you and your team excel? Where do you need to put a system in place, or to strengthen this so that it works well for you?

Patti Cotton

Patti Cotton reenergizes talented leaders and their teams to achieve fulfillment and extraordinary results. For more information on how Patti Cotton can help you and your organization, click here.

To Upgrade Your Leadership, Uplevel Your Leadership Behaviors

June 15, 2022 By Patti Cotton 1 Comment

How do you as CEO stay on top of your leadership game? Many think reading the latest books on this will keep things fresh. Others rely on bootcamps or CEO peer groups to stimulate their thinking about leading, and to work through business challenges.

Books can provide great insights. Bootcamps can certainly inform you of leadership trends and approaches you might want to consider. And peer groups can bring fresh ideas, community, and accountability.

But statistics show that none of these by themselves (or all together) yield the relevant changes that are most important. In other words, if you are spending significant amounts of money on your leadership in the ways we’ve just mentioned, you may be gaining some good value – but you are still leaving a lot of your leadership potential on the table.

How do you actually sharpen your leadership in the areas that matter most?

To strengthen your leadership, you need to know which areas of your leadership are ready for upleveling, and how to actually make these shifts in order to make lasting change.

Which of your leadership behaviors is ready for an upgrade?

You won’t really know what you need to change until you get good feedback.

As CEO, you may have a fair idea of those areas you need to sharpen. But as a human being, you also have your blind spots. And you can’t see your blind spots, because, well, they are blind spots.

Michael, our CEO in the last three articles, was given some feedback. As you will recall (see last week’s article “Confronting”), Michael was highly motivated to rise above the weeds once and for all, and to bring his team along with him. They had done some important work in establishing a company business imperative with top priorities over the next 12 months, and also identified what this meant for each executive team member’s focus and energy.

When it came time to identify what the team needed in order to accomplish these things, you may remember that the team members shared what they needed as to systems and processes, but also in behaviors – team behaviors together, and leader behaviors from Michael.

“I had no idea some of my behaviors were getting in the way of team effectiveness,” he confessed.

“The good news is, Michael, that you are well respected by your team. You received some good feedback, and we need to use it. Let’s talk about what you heard.”

“Well, I heard that I disempower people by allowing their employees to come directly to me – and I may counter what their supervisor has instructed them. And I also heard that I tend not to listen to the perspectives of the other executive team members when making decisions. Those are pretty big.”

“And I agree with you,” I responded. “Those are the two main behavioral shifts I heard, as well. Do you agree?”

“I agree. I’ll stop doing those things. Today.”

“Not so fast,” I countered. “That’s not the way it works. At least, if you want the change to be effective and to last.”

“Okay, I’m listening,” he said.

You need to identify upgrade behaviors for those you want to replace.

“Explain, please,” said Michael.

“You may know what you need to stop doing, but your brain needs a picture of what it needs to do, instead. For example, if you need to stop allowing employees to come in and work around their supervisors to get a better answer from you, what should you do instead?”

“Ah,” said Michael. “Okay. I need to redirect the employees back to their supervisors.”

“Now you have it!” I responded. “And what about being open to and listening to the perspectives of others?” I asked.

“Well, that one is harder,” Michael mused. “I thought I was open, but evidently I don’t appear to be so.”

“May I give you some feedback?” I asked. “I noticed in our team meeting that, when others gave a different opinion than yours, you acknowledged them, but then went right back to your own perspective. In other words, you didn’t ask them to tell you more, allowing them to share a different point of view, while listening carefully instead of waiting to jump back in.”

“Phew,” said Michael. “This may be tough.”

“True,” I said. “In fact, these kinds of behaviors take up to a year to shift so that they are lasting.”

“Well, how do I stay on track with that?” He asked. “I don’t have a lot of time to spend on this – but it’s key and I know it.”

“Fortunately, the third step is what keeps you on track,” I answered.

Track your progress regularly by getting feedback.

“Your team has given you great feedback. They can also provide you with info on your progress.”

“Like I said, I don’t have a lot of time,” he said.

“Oh, this is a one- to two-minute check-in about once monthly to see how you are doing. And of course, your regular coaching meeting with me to discuss how it’s going, what we need to do to break through roadblocks, keep moving forward, etc.”

“I see,” said Michael. “So, I’ll just be working as usual – only I’ll be integrating upgraded behaviors. That should not take more time – it’s just doing things differently.”

“You are getting it!” I said. “I’m happy to sit with you and put together a plan.”

Michael beamed. “I’m ready,” he said. “I think we are getting the formula for staying on top of the things we want most. If I can rise to the occasion with my leadership, I can bring the others along.”

What in your leadership needs upgrading? How do you know? Reaching the most important goals successfully starts here.

Patti Cotton

Patti Cotton reenergizes talented leaders and their teams to achieve fulfillment and extraordinary results. For more information on how Patti Cotton can help you and your organization, click here.

Confronting Elephants in the Room That Hold Your Executive Team Back

June 8, 2022 By Patti Cotton Leave a Comment

Aligning and coordinating your team in a strategic direction is paramount. However, as challenging as this might seem, it is easy compared to the conversations you and your team need to have around what will actually make the plan work.

Surprised?

So was our CEO, Michael.

He thought that setting a clear direction (see the article Getting Your Leadership and Company Out of the Weeds) and aligning and coordinating his executive team’s energies around this (see the article How to Align and Coordinate Your Team) would get them to “hit the ground running.”

Not so. In fact, his efforts had only been the first two of five important steps to becoming a high-performing team to meet the goals that matter most.

Aligning and coordinating his team revealed some deep, dark secrets that turned out to be what actually held his team back.

As a reminder, Michael had set a business imperative for the year as a first step to getting out of the weeds. He then took this to his executive team and asked each of them to consider their respective areas of responsibility as they drew up their own business imperatives to support the larger one. Recognizing that this would require some time, they agreed to meet the following week.

As they reconvene seven days later, let’s sit in on their conversation…

“Max,” I asked the COO. “You had a great question just before we adjourned our last meeting. You asked if redirecting the team’s energy around the business imperative would not require that we reexamine the other initiatives currently on your plates.”

“That’s right,” Max responded.

Candace, the CFO interjected. “Patti, I’m more interested in the shifts in behaviors you mentioned we would have to discuss.”

“Great kick-off to this meeting,” I responded. “If you will recall, I mentioned that you are all part of a system, and that all parts of the system need to work together in an aligned and coordinated way. This means not only having the same focus and organizing your efforts, but also confronting those things that hold you back from getting this done.”

“We are going to talk about what will hold you back from achieving the goals you have set together. I call these the “elephants in the room.” These are things that interfere with moving forward. And we are all well aware of them. But we don’t address them for various reasons.”

Max spoke up. “Like the fact that we probably won’t effectively address what to do with the other initiatives we have on our plates, because we just hope that by ignoring them, they will get done, anyway.”

“Right!” I said.

Michael spoke up. “And how about things take away from our focus?” He glanced at Candace. “For instance, employee problems that keep happening because we don’t want to confront them.”

“Well, if you are going to talk about this, then let’s talk about it,” bristled Candace. “Because if we are really going to surface these elephants in the room, then let’s talk about that employee situation to which you are probably referring, which occurred again last week.”

“That’s exactly what I’m talking about,” said Michael.

“Well,” Candace took a deep breath, “Would it surprise you to know that I feel you are the cause of that problem?”

The entire room fell silent.

“Okay,” said Michael. “I’m listening.”

Candace resumed. “I actually spent another two hours in HR last week over those two employees, only to find out that I couldn’t take action. Apparently, one of them had gone straight to you and gotten permission to do exactly what I had told him not to do. This happens a lot! So how do we handle that, Michael?”

“Now, we are talking,” I said. “We’ve just begun to reveal and confront some of the important things that are holding you all back.”

Michael sat back in his chair. “It sounds like I may be a chief culprit in keeping us in the weeds.”

“Well, I guess I can stand with you,” said Candace. “I’ve been avoiding this conversation for months.”

“Take heart, team,” I said. “This happens to the best of companies. The good news is, we can turn this around. The heart of successful change lies in identifying these behaviors and actions that hold us back – and in having the courage to confront them together.”

We spent the next two hours identifying main areas where shifts needed to occur. The team was subdued as they adjourned.

“Just a minute, team,” Michael paused. “I want to say a couple of things. First, I want to apologize for what I now know has held us back. I’m going to work very hard on making these changes. I’m thankful that you listened to the shifts I need to see in the team – and I’m very proud of you for speaking up today; for having the courage to confront me on what I need to do to support these changes.”

“I want to second the motion,” I shared. “And believe it or not, when we confront what is holding us back, this is when great things begin to happen. Let’s meet next week to pull this forward. It’s not enough to reveal the elephants – we need to up-level these behaviors to move past them.”

What are the elephants you need to confront in your executive team room? Next week, we will talk about how to up-level the behaviors and actions that hold you back so that you, too, can move forward.

Patti Cotton

Patti Cotton reenergizes talented leaders and their teams to achieve fulfillment and extraordinary results. For more information on how Patti Cotton can help you and your organization, click here.